Facebook and Relationships..Should You Add Your Boo to You Friends List??

My co-workers and I were having a discussion about Facebook and being friends with someone you are dating. There was a situation where Keisha (names have been changed to protect identities :) is dating Steve. They have been dating for 11 months. Keisha and Steve have gotten very close and spend alot of time together. Keisha sent Steve a friend request on Facebook. He never accepted. A few weeks later they are hanging out at her house and he is on Facebook on his phone. She takes this opprotunity to ask him if he recieved her friend request. He says yes! So she asked why he didnt accept. He says he sees her all the time so he doesnt need to be her friend on Facebook. Also his info area states he is "in a relationship" which she also questions and he just says he never changed it from his last relationship. He is adament about her not being his friend and this makes her question where she really stands with him. So my question to you....Should you be concerned if the person you have been seeing for almost a year- wont allow you to be their Facebook friend or should Facebook just not even be an issue.........

I'm Your WHAT !!!????!!!????

That awkward moment when you are out with the guy you have been dating for a while and he runs into someone he knows.....He says whats up to his friend(s) and then begins to introduce you....."Oh and this is my ___________, Collie. You are not sure what goes in those blanks until he actually says it! What if what he says is NOT what you were expecting!!!! This is why its so important that after dating for a period of time you know exactly where you stand with this person. If you have been dating 6 months and he introduces you as his "homegirl" then you might be a little confused especially if you have started to develop feelings for this guy. I think its important to know what category you are in....."Girlfriend", "Friend", Friends w/ benefits", "Cut buddies", "Boo", etc. Its just always good to know so you wont get that "homegirl" introduction when you thinking you a boo! LOL!!! So what are your thoughts? How long after dating someone (exclusively) do you think its a good time to discuss where you stand. Also, do you think a title is important? This was just a topic that me and my co-workers were discussing so I wanted to post to get your thoughts on this subject.

RELATIONSHIPS & RELIGION

I was out on a double date with a friend of mine. The guys were really cool. We were having a good time. There was great conversation about life, sports, politics, etc! Then the big religion debate surfaced! One of the guys stated that he believed in God but not Jesus! There was a very awkward silence for like 5 seconds. I was really doing a *blank stare* at this dude! Lol! I guess because I believe in Jesus and in the power in the blood and I believe he died for our sins! But don't get me wrong. We all have a right to believe in what we want to believe in. But my question is.....Could you really seriously date someone who does not share your same beliefs?????
Would the relationship even work? Should we even go so far as to question someones faith before we give them the number??? Ladies and Gentleman .....what are your thoughts????

Is Marriage EVERY Girls Dream ??

This topic was inspired by the latest episode of "Single Ladies" . This show comes on Monday nights @ 10 p.m. EST on Vh-1! If you havent checked it out.....then do so. They showcase a lot of  "single" topics that make for a good debate :*)
Anyway.....On to the question....Is marriage the ultimate goal in every girls relationship??? My girlfriends and I had a debate about this and it seems marriage wins. The majority ruled that what is the purpose of dating if you not going to get married. Well, one of the charaters on the show stated that "all men are not marraige material" (which is true and that goes for women as well).
So whats wrong with dating and enjoying someone without having to try to reach the "ultimate goal" with everyone you date. Mostly its based on how you feel and what you ultimately want in life. And if you want the happily ever after~ then you should never settle. But if you are ok with being in  a great relationship with someone who treats you like a queen and is faithful and everything you want in a man.....would you  demand he put a ring on it before you bail.......
I guess it just boils down to what it is YOU want out of the relationship. Never settle and always go after what you want! But dont look sideyed at the other chick who is confident and happy in her relationship (married or not) because maybe thats just Her prerogative.......
So what are YOUR thoughts??? Is Marriage your Dream or would you be happy with a beautiful relationship minus the ring????

****DEALBREAKERS*****

"Dealbreakers" !!! We all have them......No matter how optimistic you are about this guy or this girl you just met. And the killing part is they seem so perfect. Then all of a sudden you are hit with an issue about that person that you just cant deal with. Then you realize that its just NOT going to work out. I can admit I have been in this situation a few times.  Great guy....He had a great personality, a full time job, was so handsome, only had one child but his breath was HORRIBLE! Now its understandable that sometimes we have eaten some Doritos, LOL, or just ate pasta with garlic ....ya know....situations like that. Thats understandable that the breath may not be at its freshest. But this was a different kind of stank......like the "I havent ever been to the dentist to have my teeth cleaned in forever" kinda stank! And thats something that I cant deal with. There are a few more dealbreakers for me .....like if you dont take care of your kids.....you cant talk to me! Bad sex = NEXT!!!!! LOL! Believe me! I know there is no one that is perfect and you probably wont ever get that perfect cookie cutter mate......but there simply are some things that are on the list of " I Just Wont Tolerate" !
So what are your dealbreakers??? I want to know! And do you think that your list will eventually keep you from finding that special someone...........

Top Ten "Can't Stands" for Men - SLIDESHOW | advice.eharmony.com

Top Ten "Can't Stands" for Men - SLIDESHOW advice.eharmony.com

ONLINE DATING!!!! The DO's, The DONT's and The DRAMA !!!!!!

We all live busy lives and may not have the time to meet someone in the "traditional" way! On the other hand, we may be bored or in a dating slump and decide to seek out ways to meet others. If online dating has ever crossed your mind then you are not alone. One out of five relationships begin on an online dating site. There are so many sites to choose from. Match.com, E Harmony, and even BlackPeopleMeet.com.  I am not ashamed to admit that I have tried a dating site before. More times than I would like to admit, LOL, and my experience has been........(sigh) just OK! Now, dont get me wrong, I have met some very interesting people online. Some of which I am still friends with, we just did not connect in a romantic way. Then we have the few I have had to "run forrest run" from and blocked them from getting back onto my page! I have yet to meet someone online, and we get that instant attraction and end up dating long term. People do lie, and they WILL hide behind their computer screens and be the perfect person for you UNTIL YOU MEET THEM!! LOL!!! So I want to know your thoughts on online dating. How were your experiences? Would you do it again? If you havent ever went on a date with someone you met on a dating website, then how about a blind date? I want to hear success stories as well as those that were a #FAIL!!!  I look forward to chatting with all of you!
I want to share a quick experience of my own......I met this guy via blackpeoplemeet. He was handsome. Beautiful smile.  Employed. Had his own place. Had a car. No kids. And single!! Right up my alley....I THOUGHT!!! Well after chatting online, we decided on a date. Before we were to meet I called and informed him my daughters open house took longer than expected and I would be running a few mins (15) late. Yes, I know. Not good to be late BUT BUT BUT , I informed him ahead of time and had already told him a few days prior I wasnt sure how long the open house would take.  Well I arrived, only 10 mins late. He STILL had a problem. And he had no problem letting me know that!!! Ok cool. We went out on a few more dates to eat and to a movie. EACH time he would be even more rude and so sarcastic about everything!!!! It was like he was 2 different people and I never knew which one I was going to get. He would be cool and laughing one min and rude and sarcastic the next!! I was blown away after he embarrased me in Ihop by raising his voice at me for no apparent reason!! He seemed irritated and I was #DONE!!!!!!! That was our last and final date! I blocked him and havent looked back. But that was just 1 of my crazy stories! Now I wanna hear yours!!!!...................