Sunday, September 23, 2012

WHY AM I SINGLE???

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself that question? Do you have an answer?? Go to a mirror, look yourself in your eyes and firmly ask "WHY am I single??" Now think about the answer to that. What are the reasons behind your failed relationships? Some of us are so quick to place the blame on others that we never just take a close look at what going on within ourselves. Im not saying its anyones fault or your own fault that you are single. Im saying....what are you doing to change that status?? Are you making yourself avaliable to meet new people? How are you coming off to others? Do you fear rejection? Here are a few tips I found online that may be hindering you from finding that someone... So lets get on a ball Ladies! It's almost cuddle season !!!

Your "vibe"

Your vibe consists of the way you come at people. It includes, but is not limited to your attitude, tone of voice, and the body language you give off. The way you talk to people is a huge deal for many men. Being overly rude or obnoxious is a turn-off. Standing in a guarded position may make you look unapproachable, even if you are not intending to look this way. A friend of mine tried this out when we went to a bar a while back. She was chronically single, and wouldn't even be approached when we were out. The crazy thing is, she is beautiful. She tried "letting loose" and it worked. That night she gave out her number to three different men. As it turns out, one of them is still seeing her.

Put yourself out there

Actively look for a date. Walk up to guys and talk to them, some even find that sexy. Make yourself available to hang out with friends and meet people. If you are sitting home behind a computer, you will not be noticed. Think about the ideal places to meet someone and get out there. Step out of your comfort zone and relax. This is something many women neglect to do on a daily basis. When I decided I was tired of being single, I made sure I kept myself busy doing fun things. I would go out with my girlfriends for drinks, take a walk in the local park, and even hang out at company events. It paid off because I met a wonderful guy and my days of being single are long gone.

Don't fear rejection

Many women are afraid to be rejected. The fear is natural, but can also be incredibly hindering. If you have noticed this as one of your issues, you need to consider the flip side of the coin. Dating the first guy you meet long term does not mean that he is the one that is "right for you." The relationship may last six months or many years, and then you are back in the same position again. There will be many rejections that you will have to deal with, including in love. Remembering that it will not define you should help you be able to get out and try. Sometimes there are sub-conscience reasons why you are still single. Think about your past experiences and what you could do better in the present. Consider this more about strengthening your social skills and gaining more friends, rather than just a simple quest for love.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Facebook and Relationships..Should You Add Your Boo to You Friends List??

My co-workers and I were having a discussion about Facebook and being friends with someone you are dating. There was a situation where Keisha (names have been changed to protect identities :) is dating Steve. They have been dating for 11 months. Keisha and Steve have gotten very close and spend alot of time together. Keisha sent Steve a friend request on Facebook. He never accepted. A few weeks later they are hanging out at her house and he is on Facebook on his phone. She takes this opprotunity to ask him if he recieved her friend request. He says yes! So she asked why he didnt accept. He says he sees her all the time so he doesnt need to be her friend on Facebook. Also his info area states he is "in a relationship" which she also questions and he just says he never changed it from his last relationship. He is adament about her not being his friend and this makes her question where she really stands with him. So my question to you....Should you be concerned if the person you have been seeing for almost a year- wont allow you to be their Facebook friend or should Facebook just not even be an issue.........

Sunday, May 27, 2012

I'm Your WHAT !!!????!!!????

That awkward moment when you are out with the guy you have been dating for a while and he runs into someone he knows.....He says whats up to his friend(s) and then begins to introduce you....."Oh and this is my ___________, Collie. You are not sure what goes in those blanks until he actually says it! What if what he says is NOT what you were expecting!!!! This is why its so important that after dating for a period of time you know exactly where you stand with this person. If you have been dating 6 months and he introduces you as his "homegirl" then you might be a little confused especially if you have started to develop feelings for this guy. I think its important to know what category you are in....."Girlfriend", "Friend", Friends w/ benefits", "Cut buddies", "Boo", etc. Its just always good to know so you wont get that "homegirl" introduction when you thinking you a boo! LOL!!! So what are your thoughts? How long after dating someone (exclusively) do you think its a good time to discuss where you stand. Also, do you think a title is important? This was just a topic that me and my co-workers were discussing so I wanted to post to get your thoughts on this subject.